1) Whatever is important to you should be obvious to others. Friendships, passions, hobbies – whatever it is, own it.
2) Passive aggression is ineffective. Further, it is toxic and stupid. Have the fortitude to be direct.
3) Know when to move on. This isn’t your first rodeo. You know when it’s good for you and you know when it’s not. Leave before it’s obvious.
4) Always stick to a commitment for as long as it makes sense. If it stops making sense, stop making so many commitments.
5) Keep it simple. Not to be obvious or clichéd but, what you own ends up owning you, and so forth. Most of what you own, most of what you pretend to be, can be thrown away and forgotten in a week. It’s the 10% that makes you who you are (see #1).
6) “What you fear the most will meet you halfway” (Victoria Williams). So, the lesson is: drop some of your fears.
7) Freedom and autonomy are not mutually exclusive, but they are different. Doing whatever you want and being able to do whatever you want are not the same thing. The ability is paramount. Actions are virtually meaningless in some regard.
8) Friendship is not disposable. It is necessary. The moment you decide it is a replaceable commodity is the moment you have decided you know everything. You do not.
9) Love is rarely found in romanticism. It is not in movies or candlelit dinners. It is not a subservience to another, nor is it an undying commitment subject to timing, location, or words. It is, at the very least, empathy, warmth, and beyond that, I have no idea. Yet.
10) Not all art is good, yet all art serves as evidence toward what is. Even “bad” art reminds us what is so “good” about the music, film, literature, and images that are “great”.
11) Socrates was right! As soon as you start to act and think that you know it all is the exact, pivotal moment when you cease to learn and adapt.
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